THIS week I'm talking about teaching our children consent, starting very young.

It's a terrifying thought that many children are abused daily.

Statistics show that often, it's by someone close – a family member or caregiver.

We convince ourselves that it couldn't, wouldn't happen to our child – but it could and often does.

Denial won't protect your child, awareness and education will.

Often, victims reporting historic child sexual abuse are asked why they didn't say anything at the time. The fact is that many children aren't aware that what's happening to them is wrong – they may simply accept it as 'this is how it is'.

How is a child supposed to know what their rights are, unless we teach them about consent?

I believe this starts from very early on – by respecting their autonomy with regard to their bodies.

1: No forced affection – no making them kiss or hug relatives.

2: Stopping tickling them or playing rough and tumble the moment they say or show that they've had enough.

3: Asking before helping them to wash.

4: Use the correct terms for private parts, there's nothing to be ashamed of and if children know what the different body parts are called there won't be any confusion if they try to tell someone about abuse.

5: Explain to them the NSPCC 'PANTS' rules:

-Privates are private

-Always remember your body belongs to you

-No means no

-Talk about secrets that upset you

-Speak up, someone can help.

You can read more about how to talk to your child about consent on the NSPCC's website, nspcc.org.uk/preventing-abuse/keeping-children-safe/underwear-rule.

If you've been affected by this as an adult survivor, help is available at napac.org.uk and locally at The Glade, and West Mercia Rape & Sexual Abuse Support Centre (WMRSASC)

If you suspect a child is being abused, please report it to Social Services or West Mercia Police.